My oldest daughter takes after me in so many ways, if you put us side-by-side at 7 years old, you’d question who was who. That’s both a good and a bad thing because, in addition to inheriting positive qualities like my craftiness or soft spot for the underdog, she has also inherited my negativity. Like, in a big way. She could be having the best time on earth, but one little thing can set her off, and suddenly everything is terrible and no one likes her and she doesn’t know how she’ll ever be happy ever again in her whole entire life. Chase and I talk ad nauseam about finding ways to build her “resiliency” and self-esteem, but the truth is, it’s an uphill battle (one I obviously face within myself). The point is, we’re trying!
One strategy that seems to be working, not just for the Bean but her sister, too, is daily thanksgiving. Any time we’re gathered at the table for a meal, I ask 2 questions to get the girls focused on something positive: 1. What was your favourite part of the day, and 2. What are you thankful for? The first time we tried this, I felt like an idiot (and I still kind of do, to be honest, but it’s getting less cringe-y), just because it can seem weird and forced. The kids don’t notice, though; they just answer the question like I’m making natural conversation. I’ve been asking every single dinnertime now for 2 or 3 weeks (even in restaurants), and it has been great.
The adults have to answer, too. I usually try to include something about the kids, like maybe my favourite part of the day was seeing how well they played together, or I’m thankful for having such smart, beautiful girls. And sometimes they’ll say they’re glad we are their parents, or they’ll model their friends who pray at every meal and thank God for giving us “foooood“. It’s a nice little mealtime ritual and it’s so mindnumbingly easy, I don’t know why we didn’t do it before. I know the kids are into it because there have been nights when they ask what everyone is thankful for before Chase and I have a chance to.
I’m looking for more “resiliency-building” tips, so please share if you have any! Maybe this is something I should look for on Pinterest in addition to new recipes. Speaking of which….
I knew I was going to like this recipe because, hello Mexican food!, but these stuffed peppers exceeded my expectations. I loved them, Chase loved them, and even the kids ate them. Bean and Sprout weren’t crazy about the vegetables, but there was plenty of “stuffing” that didn’t make it into the peppers, so I just handed them a package of tortillas and they went to town making “tacos” out of the leftovers (hot tip! serve them as burritos the next day). Honestly, so easy and so good. I need to start giving these Pinterest recipes stars – five out of five!
Here’s a photo I took of my pepper last night, basically in the dark because wintertime in Canada means the sun sets at like, 3pm now.